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3Ds for Learning & Development

Anytime of the life is time for learning and development. Wasantha Tennakoon at New School of Training works very often with client companies to provide orientations for their new staff members. Nurturing new practices into life is not as easy as it preaches. Hence, Wasantha has included "3Ds for learning and Development" as part of his orientation missions to help the audience for acquiring new knowledge and cherish them. Discipline, Determination and Dedication will always help to any scholar to learn smart and develop the personal skills and professional skills as well.

ජීවිතයේ ඕනෑම වේලාවක් ඉගෙනීමට හා සංවර්ධනය කිරීමට කාලයකි. ජීවිතයට නව පුරුදු ඇති කිරීම එය සිතන තරම් පහසු නැත. නිව් ස්කුල් ඔෆ් ට්‍රේනින් වෙනුවෙන් වසන්ත තෙන්නකොන් බොහෝ විට සේවාදායක සමාගම් සමඟ ඔවුන්ගේ නව කාර්ය මණ්ඩල සාමාජිකයින් සඳහා මුලික ලබා දීමට කටයුතු කරයි. නව දැනුම ලබා ගැනීමට සහ එය ආදරයෙන් රැකබලා ගැනීමට ප්‍රේක්ෂකයන්ට උපකාර කිරීම ඔහුගේ දිශානතියේ මෙහෙවරේ කොටසක් ලෙස සැලකේ "ඉගෙනීම හා සංවර්ධනය සඳහා 3D" හි කෙටි වීඩියෝව ඉන් එක් කොටසකි. විනය, අධිෂ්ටනය සහ කැපවීම සෑම විශාරදයකුටම බුද්ධිමත්ව ඉගෙන ගැනීමට සහ පුද්ගලික හා වෘත්තීය කුසලතා වර්ධනය කිරීමට උපකාරී වේ.

 

ASK..! What use of it..?

There are many things to learn when shifting into the professional life from unemployed and student life. Orientation is the process of grooming them to new world. Pattern of attitudes, ways and means of working skillfully, and acquiring new knowledge is considered as foundation of it. This video clip has created from recorded library shots to give a brief idea to viewers about importance of adopting those characteristics to the life. The program was facilitated by Wasantha Tennakoon at New School of Training.

The true mother of Harry Potter.

It is quite clear you would have read about Harry Potter's greatest magic.  But you should have not heard about Harry Potter's real mother's life story because it has not written in any books published by J K Rowling. However, at a speech for Harvard University students, she had revealed this untold story.

According to her story, a single mum had spent a life grasping at straws with her girl child. She had lost her all materialistic valuables on her journey to find a fortune except the degree earned from a UK university. This jobless and homeless poor lady had adjusted her life to live with other homeless communities in the city. Her whole property had been limited to a mattress, old typewriter, and most essential utensils to live a basic life.  Though her life was very miserable and painful, she had seasoned to understand that wept and tears had not the capability to turn their lives for the better.  

She was the true mother chosen one by God to endow little Harry Potter. As she was cherishing the little Harry Potter nothing was at her side for her benefit or support to her. Her efforts to find a stable and permanent job were fruitless, and she had to depend on casual odd jobs to feed her dependents and protect herself.

Amidst the pain was stricken, she groomed and shaped the Harry Potter. She tended to write everything she dreamed about Harry Potter. When she and her daughter felt hungry and cold, she taught Harry how to strong even without essentials. When she felt disappointed, she taught Harry to be courageous. She taught him every skill she imagined when the world sleeps in dark nights. Her determination and desire had turned to a divine power for scripting a whole life plan for Harry. Her days and nights had dedicated to shaping Harry.

Harry Potter was growing secretly in dark subways. The time has been flown little by little. The written destiny of Harry Potter had been stored in paper bundles.

This is the story of Harry Potter. The true mother of Harry was J K Rowling. 

A day was dawn nothing to deal with. She decided to sell her writings to a publisher. She walked along many streets in London to meet publishers with this load of papers on one hand and a child on the other hand, but nobody wanted to publish this novice author’s fiction.

“No” was not an answer to Rowling because she knew better than anyone else about Harry Potter's value.  Rowling was trying to sell her book.

One day, a publisher’s young daughter was reading the manuscript of the book, while Rowling was trying to convince a publisher. The publisher wanted to make this woman leave him without talking more about a business that not going to happen. Hence, he ordered his little daughter to return the scripts that she was reading. While she was rushing to organize and bundling them, she turned her eyes on this novice woman author and said “it is very interesting to read”.

It was the moment of the woman author’s life changed and “Harry Potter” was born. Simultaneously, J K Rowling also got her renaissance as an author. While revealing her dark past in public at a Harvard University forum, she has said, “I had no idea then how far the tunnel extended and for a long time any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.” 

Nothing to wonder about her statement since Harry Potter also an imagination rather than reality.

EXPERIENCE THE GIVING UP

After very long silence I thought to write something, though I had many things to share in past years, the busy schedule and lack of supportive background discouraged and prevented me trying it. However I decided write again something after long time. The lake can retain water as long as water reaches to its bunt’s height.  When water reaches its bunt’s height it starts overflow. I think my long silence has also filled my mind with many of things that took place in the past and now reached to over flow. So I decided to let it flow  freely as it wishes to flow.

Have you seen water is overflowing from a bowl or pot? The water added last will flow out first. So I also thought sharing with you the most recent things that influenced me. Nowadays Sri Lanka is celebrating the “Vesak Festival” with commemorating the Lord Buddha’s birth, enlightenment and passing away. Within this period many things are happening on this land, from lighting an oil lamp to displaying giant pandols  with thousand of colorful bulbs and attractive pictures drawn on Buddha’s life, from giving little thing to providing free food and drinks to thousands of people who are on pilgrims at nicely built temporary tents at waysides.  These things only take place in Sri Lanka. Wherever you travel all over the world you never get such experience.  It is only at Sri Lanka.

Anyway my aim is not to talk about beauty, joy or glamour of “Vesak  Festival”. I am just to bring very important matter to limelight that runs under all these visible and touchable things. It is the “art of giving up”. Some people who are believed in Buddhism do things merely by faith. It is not bad thing. There is a reason to say that faith is not bad thing.  That reason is if someone from these people are need rationally understand this “art of giving up” Lord Buddha’s preaching helps them to understand it logically understand and follow. Such people are practicing the “art of giving up” with wisdom as that was taught by Lord Buddha. Whatever is the reason that lead people to practice “giving up”, it is not as easy as it seems. Giving the best is the way of real giving. Giving what you love most is the real giving.  Giving what you have excess is not a real giving up.  According to Lord Buddha’s teaching givers mindset is very important in the giving up process. Other important thing is the thing or object that we give. The thing that we give should be a thing earned through righteous and proper way.  Finally to be perfect of giving the receiver also should be highly appropriate to receive that.

If everyone of this world can practice this everyday everywhere all over the world, this earth will be the paradise that filled with happiness, joy and beauty.

Look at it through Johari window

I had a lot on my plate in the last week with some official and personal matters. Among all, attending my sister’s house-warming ceremony was also a compulsory matter.  It was an all-night religious activity. She had invited to very close kindred. Though I am loathed to attend such events, there was no way to miss it. Hence, I was there to mark my presence too.  

Apart from being in a busy atmosphere, that had been provided an opportunity for relatives to meet after several years. Undoubtedly, that opportunity was used by them to optimum and talk about anything as they wish.

While the religious activities were going on inside the house, visitors were having bull sessions in a tent built to accommodate people who burn the midnight oil until dawn.  After many short-length discussions, our clique was talking about their close call driving experiences.  One of my uncles was telling us about his experience of falling to sleep while he was driving.  Many others who were listening to this responded with their experiences and advice as well. Amidst all these talks, one person wanted to know something related to sleeping. That unexpected question was a point that turned the discussion is upside down.

“What organ of the body sleeps first when you badly need to sleep?”

This question was raised by one of my relatives, and it was sharp-edged to keep the whole area at pinpoint silence for a few seconds.

The silence was ended with a load of answers. Everyone rushed to tell an answer. Among the many of the mentioned body organs, my answer was the ball of the eye. Unfortunately, he did not accept any of our answers as correct.

In parallel to the refusals of our answers, we heated with a boiling interest to know the correct answer from this man runs a small business for livelihood.  

From the demographic point of view, the vast majority of that discussion group was knowledgeable or economically successful people. Ignoring such social or civil status, a simple question had turned all of them helpless. 

Johari Window Model

That atmosphere sparked my mind and recalled me about the “Johari Window” model. That situation and people's behavior was a real example of that model. All were acting their roles as explained in the model. How nice it to see things from a bird's view when all others trying to prove their viewpoint is correct and prove their intelligence. 

Johari window is a very impressive model to study to understand the importance of self-awareness in an environment where group activities and discussions are happening. It has been a widely discussed theory at interpersonal communication and social-behavioral platforms since it concentrates on an important part of individual perception and versatility of dealing with others. Two psychologists had been created this model in 1955 at California University. The name "Johary" has come to this model since it had been invented and developed by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham.

In my point of view, the Johari model has based on two legs. One leg is representing your knowledge. The Other leg represents your ability to acquire information from others. It pushes us to move beyond the two-way communication process. The Johari model brings some very essential characteristics into the limelight that needed for effective interpersonal communication. This signifies having trustworthy, intelligent, efficient, and effective relationships for exchanging useful information between two persons or more perhaps. Without the above personal traits were not worked as signifiers, the acquisition of the trust of the other person will not be an easy task. Revealing your information about yourself through feedback by others is a consequence of the first action's success.

This model suggests four areas to concentrate on when acquiring knowledge or expressing knowledge. Every person has an area they can work with confidence. It calls an open area to that particular person. Perhaps, that person may perform alone within that frame, since he or she is well aware of all matters in that area. Except for this area, there are three more areas to be concerned by everyone. In the Johari window model, these areas are called hidden, blind, and unknown areas.

I suppose the person who asked about the human organ that leads the person to sleep raised a question that belongs to the area not open to any of in the clique. Unfortunately, it was not an era available easy access to the internet too. Hence, all had been stuck in their blind, hidden, or unknown areas with that question.

When all the big people in a helpless state, that man became the star in the scene. Among the people who are known what is not known to them, this person was a pretentious expert since he knew an answer. In a scenario, if all are blind and unknown something, even a wrong may become a correct one. That was what happened there.

According to that person, the answer was the ear. He said, “before the eyes close our ear stops sending messages to the brain”.

Until now, I did not check the answer is correct or wrong. I was mostly inspired by the Johari Window Model experience rather than finding its accuracy. 

What body part sleep first? .. Ears...!!! I don’t know what I don’t know...😀😀  But I know, Johari The window Model works well even after seven decades. 💪👌👍

Once a moron once a model..

One of my friends spoke to me little while ago from Sweden. He has flown far long from here, his motherland. (Not as an asylum state seeker)

When I hear from him, I couldn’t stop my memories reversing me to fifteen years history.  One of my best friends house was the free lodge for many of us at that time. Really it was like a hostel rather than house. His family members tolerated us. We didn’t feel it belong to another family since their kindness. There was a boy who just passed his teen years. Being a relation of my friend he was fallen in to family members group of the house occupants.

I can still figure out the posture of he was watching TV and resting on red couch in the sitting room. He never missed any English movie telecasted on TV. The rest of the time he spent on thinking, planning, and dreaming to fly abroad to find treasure.  His style, pattern, vocabulary and interests were more compatible western culture than local context. I am sure that most of people thought he is moron going waste his future by chasing an objective that he can’t reach.  He was an alien to some people since he was not inline with their thinking pattern. Many people advised him to give up his dream because it will not come true.

But, this boy insisted and adhered to the further his dream while surfing on big western cities mentally where ha has seen on movies. He neglected all the troubles, difficulties, pains he had to overcome on his way to reach his goal. Sometimes he lost everything what he had, including love, respect, recognition and social acceptance while he taste bitterness of failures but he tend to protect  one thing secure. It is his dream to going through big cities in the world and earns his livelihood.

Today, that man called me from Sweden, after passing many cities that he dreamed to roam.

I just brought this story to your attention since it worthwhile to study. It says us how NLP theory works with people and combination of attitude, interest and motivation drive a person to reach his target.

GOOD LUCK MY FRIEND Uxxxxxxx..!!!